Sorry if I becomes really hard to understand in this post, but the problem is that I stayed up really late last night and now I've been dozing over everything, so sorry!
Anyhow, let's get into what I really want to talk about, love or more importantly what love is today. Because I personally feel that the true meaning of love is getting lost.
Love seems like something that no one takes seriously anymore. There are heaps of jokes and laughter about people in love. Which is all kind of sad, but to make this worse, love has turned into a game.
I remember when I was little and I used to curl up in a corner reading about love and thinking about how perfect it was. How powerful it was. I had no idea about what the world was turning it into back then. I just thought of it as a part of a fairy tale in the real world!
But now that I’m older, I look around the people around me and everything has changed. Love is all about getting the best boyfriend, dumping him when someone better comes long, giggling behind hands at other people.
When did this happen?! None of these things involve the real love? It’s kind of sad that this is the way the world is.
People as young as fifteen or younger are getting boyfriends, dating. They truly can’t understand what they’re really doing. I’m fifteen and I don’t feel ready for boyfriends and love. I feel I still have a lot to learn and that I’m not mature enough for this.
I wonder why people think the way they do. What makes them think that having a boyfriend is the ‘done’ thing? What happened about love? Where did all that go?
Love seems like something that no one takes seriously anymore. There are heaps of jokes and laughter about people in love. Which is all kind of sad, but to make this worse, love has turned into a game.
I remember when I was little and I used to curl up in a corner reading about love and thinking about how perfect it was. How powerful it was. I had no idea about what the world was turning it into back then. I just thought of it as a part of a fairy tale in the real world!
But now that I’m older, I look around the people around me and everything has changed. Love is all about getting the best boyfriend, dumping him when someone better comes long, giggling behind hands at other people.
When did this happen?! None of these things involve the real love? It’s kind of sad that this is the way the world is.
People as young as fifteen or younger are getting boyfriends, dating. They truly can’t understand what they’re really doing. I’m fifteen and I don’t feel ready for boyfriends and love. I feel I still have a lot to learn and that I’m not mature enough for this.
I wonder why people think the way they do. What makes them think that having a boyfriend is the ‘done’ thing? What happened about love? Where did all that go?
Will they regret it all in the future? When they're older, married and have children, have true love, will they regret everything that they did? Was it worth it? Teen romances hardly ever last.
This is my view, the view of a young, teen who is very inexperienced and knows nothing about the ways of the heart. This is what I think. Feel free to disagree, I don’t mind.
So what do you think? Is the word ‘love’ mocked nowadays? Has the meaning kind of been lost?
This is my view, the view of a young, teen who is very inexperienced and knows nothing about the ways of the heart. This is what I think. Feel free to disagree, I don’t mind.
So what do you think? Is the word ‘love’ mocked nowadays? Has the meaning kind of been lost?
This was deep, sorry! I have no idea what's happened to me. I promised, I'm NOT getting serious. I'm still ol' mad Kat. Hehehe, today's I'll get around to something light and fluffy again *I hope*.-Kat
Dont apologize; I love reading deep stuff:)
ReplyDeleteAnd I agree to an extent. I was SO not ready for love at 15, even though at the time it seemed the most important thing for teens my age was getting a boyfriend.
People mock love a lot, but I think it comes from jealousy. I know I do that all the time honestly. I make fun of my friends who are dating, but only because I secretly envy them.
I like this post. Very honest. Very real. Thanks for sharing your deep thoughts :)
Deep is interesting, but needs a lot of brain power:P
DeleteEven my best friends are starting to date and think about boys and all I can do is sit there and watch. I don't feel ready. It doesn't feel right, I'm never going to stay with them anyway, why go through the trouble of it?
To have true love always seems to be the most beautiful thing on earth and it's sad that people have seemed to forgotten that. They don't know what it is anymore. It makes me want to cry.
When I want love, I want the true thing, something that will last forever!
Thank you for reading:)
I had this friend who got a boyfriend at 14 and somehow her ambition to be an Engineer turned into getting married with that boy and having some kids -_-
ReplyDeleteI think love is only associated with boy/girl friend these days which is causing all the mess..I believe love is ability to care for someone more than we do for ourselves simple as that..
At 15 have a boy/girlfriend if you want to or like someone but not let him/her ruin your life by changing your life ambition..14-15 is a very weird age you know one thinks he/she is in love when it's just our stupid hormones messing around..
You're right. People don't seem to know what love is anymore or even that that person won't be with them forever. They think it's going to last forever, but it won't!
DeleteI believe the definition of love is confusing. Its late at night where I live but when I saw this, I had to go and respond to this right away. My friends and I were on the bus, and me and one of my friends watched the other text his gitlfriend. All their texts consist of, "Awwee, love you too! Dating you is the best thing that ever happened in my life." I kind of rolled my eyes at that, because I thought it was incredibly ridiculous to be dating at this time. We are what, fourteen and fifteen year olds.
ReplyDeleteThe other friend sitting next to me had the same reaction like I did, but unlike me, he was rather verbal and direct about his opinion. He said something along the lines of, "Just stop. Its kind of stupid; you're taking the word too lightly. Like, if I were dating, I wouldn't say 'I love you' unless the relationship is serious."
I have to agree. We are people nearing inching closer to going to university or doing something after school. We have all of this time to find love, from 22 to 35ish (kind of what I imagined the age time frame would be), and we could be doing so much more with this limited period of our life then end up having our hearts be broken. Can it be possible to have found true love in high school? Its possible, but the chances of that are rare.
Love... Love is such a hard thing to find. People often think about love and want to fall in love, fast, and get married. But we also have to be sensible. Love isn't, in everyone's ordinary lives, like the stories Nicholas Sparks has managed to create, or Danielle Steele or some other romance writing out there. It is not like "love at first sight in fairy tales," either. Love is different in each couple's story or journey. It may not be like in the books or movies, but it is unique to them.
I know that you're an INFP... I dunno, but do you tend to fantasize falling in love and the perfect partner? Apparently it's something we tend to do. Thereis more to it than that, but I think that is something we are going to end up falling in, this sort of trap. Its something I'm scared of, obviously. It's good imagining, but we have to be sensible, and trying to understand that no one is perfect and we cannot find that perfect partner we dream of is hard... And we kind of end up in situations like Belle and Anne Shirley end up into.
I am real sad that people have forgotten the true definition of love... One time, on this one dictionary site (pretty sure it was the Merriam Webster) the most looked up definition in that past week was "love." Can you believe it? People sometimes... Honestly, with how the world percieves live kind of scares me away from falling in love. I don't know if I would or will or end up finding happily ever after. I dwell on the future and the past too much, but it is so hard not to think and dream and create ideas. But for now, I will just have to see what comes my way.
And if people want to think about love, what about love you would hold for a friend in a brotherly/sisterly way, or for an actual family member? Love isn't about just the attraction or bonding of two individuals of the opposite gender, for if that were the case, what would you call the bonds between friends and family? If people focused on this love a bit more at our age there would probably be less drama. But of course, there are hormones, and we can't do anything about that.
Sorry if this comment is super long, but I had to express my feelings on this topic because it has been rattling my head for several hours since I have gotten off the bus. And I was also thinking that it would be cool if we and a group of bloggers started an email group or meme and talk about questions like this... It is good for the soul. I should probably go make them meme/group tomorrow morning... Dibs on the idea, for now! It'd be interesting. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Kat; I think people should really see some insight into a subject which is often and highly misunderstood. :)
xoxo Morning
Wow! What a long comment. I signed on today to find it and it was a lovely surprise!
DeleteLove is something that seems to be misunderstood and what you've said is right. I totally agree with everything you've said.
I'm always thinking rude things about people who say 'love you baby' and stuff. It's ridiculous and I don't agree that it's real!
That's crazy? How can no one know what love means? It's like the most well known word, but maybe misunderstood. I want to go search that now to see what it said. You've made me curious!
Thanks for commenting. Sorry this is a shorter reply, but I'm not feeling good. I really enjoyed your comment though!
Amazing comment Morningtime4! Also, I agree with you that a email group of bloggers talking about a questions would be cool! I would love to be in it! :-)
DeleteI'm pretty sure most teens don't date for love....I mean, I could be wrong. I haven't found "love" yet, hehe, apart from my bookshelf and the scores and scores of boys I am hopelessly in love with that are...um...fictional. WAH.
ReplyDeleteI pretty certain about that as well. I certainly don't feel ready for love as a teen. Well, maybe I am in love with Leo Valdez and a few fictional characters, but still...
DeleteI'm not sure what love is, but what I'm sure of, is that too many people talk about true love, but no one has ever seen it... I mean, sure, my parents love each other, but there is no starcrossed or "true" love. And it's not just about sex either. I think love is something much more subtle than most people think, not when we're swarming for the other person, more than a state of deep trust and deep understanding, not when you can't get enough of each other, because you're afraid, that he'll go, but you can always let the other go, because you know, that he'll do anything to come back...
ReplyDeleteWell, says the one who never had a boyfriend and never and experience with any kind of love outside her own family. (and who's by the way fifteen too ;-))
True love is something that's thrown around a lot, isn't it? I remember how in fairytales only a few people ever got it and everyone else got average love. But that's all kind of forgotten. But I do believe that true love exists and we can get it.
DeleteBut not everybody... I think the point is, that too many people believe, that they're the exceptions, but aren't
DeleteAs Faith said, don't apologize, I love reading deep stuff. I'm no good at commenting on it though, I'm better at just reading and then quietly thinking about it; but I just wanted to say I really admire the way you said all that and love how honest and thoughtful you are with your posts. Love is a beautiful thing - I'm thinking of love as in first Corinthians 13 - and not only in romance but also in families and between friends, et cetera. I hadn't really realized before quite how much I think about love and what it is, but I do think about it a lot. And for a while now something I've wanted to be is simply loving - with that definition of Paul's in mind - it's just one of those things I admire and want to emulate, you know? That sounds a little weird but I think you understand. I loved reading the comments to this post. :)
ReplyDeleteAnyways, awesome post, Kat. ♥
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I'm bad a commenting on deep things as well. There is so much to say, that you can't fit it all in one comment and you can't decide which bits to throw out.
DeleteThank you so much. I worry when posting this kind of thing, but I'm glad you enjoyed it and you have something to think about now!
I personally love this description of love. It's so honest and pure. You can feel it in that passage.
Thanks for visiting and taking the time to write this:)
I think that it's your maturity level. There's some kids at my school where I'm like,"Yo, what do you think you're doing?" Because some people don't understand love, and it's so obvious in their actions. But I, personally, feel like if I wasn't young - a teenager - I could easily be ready to date and get married. It's probably just me. I don't think hormones have anything to do with it - we're all going to have them, including guys, for our whole life. If the love lasts more than two weeks, it's legit.
ReplyDeleteAs for love... there are different types. I have intense love for my friends. But I haven't found someone I'd want to be with for forever. I guess I just have to wait for everyone else to grow up :)
(I, too, love reading deep stuff.)
There is a certain amount of maturity level, but I still believe that teenage years are a bit young for dating!
DeleteInteresting. Sometimes I do feel like I'm older than everyone else my own age or at least more mature. But I certainly don't feel ready for love yet.
I think there's nothing really wrong with dating in high school, because I think it prepares you for more serious relationships in college and beyond. I think it's good to have a little idea of what it's like to be in a relationship. As long as the two people are happy and are not changing who they are to please each other I really see no harm in it.
ReplyDeleteThat's a unique way to think about it, but I do think that it kind of makes a mockery of everything real love stands for. I think we should wait till the real thing arrives.
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ReplyDeleteHello! I agree completely! Whenever the word love comes up, people naturally assume couple love, but what about love for family and friends? And, love is a powerful word, but many couples are using it just so..Great post!!
ReplyDeleteYes! That's a great thought. I feel like you can have love without it being true love. Like best friends and siblings! It's sad what true love is thought of now.
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